Working with your nervous system is better than controlling it!
Posted by Tammy L. Davis on on Jan 19th 2026
What Science Reveals About Regulation, Essential Oils, and the Path to Genuine Well-Being
For decades, the predominant approach to mental and physical health has centered on control—managing symptoms, overriding uncomfortable sensations, and "fixing" what seems broken. But a growing body of peer-reviewed research reveals something remarkable: the body possesses inherent regulatory wisdom that functions optimally when we work with it, not against it.
This isn't just philosophical—it's neuroscience. And understanding this shift has profound implications for how we use essential oils and support our well-being.
The Problem With Control
Research demonstrates that attempting to suppress, avoid, or control internal experiences paradoxically increases distress. This phenomenon, called "experiential avoidance," has been studied extensively in the context of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
A meta-analysis of 67 studies involving over 9,000 individuals found that psychological flexibility—the ability to be present with uncomfortable feelings without fighting them—produced moderate to large effects (effect size g = 0.72) across various mental health conditions (Matthijssen et al., 2025). The key finding? The more rigidly we attempt to control our internal experience, the more dysregulated we become.
This creates a vicious cycle: attempts at control activate our threat systems, which generate uncomfortable sensations, which trigger more attempts at control. Breaking this cycle requires a fundamental shift from control to collaboration.
What Research Shows About Body Wisdom
1. Interoception: Your Internal Guidance System
Interoception—the ability to sense internal bodily signals—has emerged as critical for emotional regulation and mental health. A systematic review found that 64.5% of studies on interoception-based interventions showed superior results compared to control conditions, with particularly strong outcomes for trauma, chronic pain, and substance use disorders (Heim et al., 2023).
Research on Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT) demonstrates that even people with little body awareness can learn to sense internal signals within eight weeks, leading to improved emotion regulation and reduced psychological distress (Price et al., 2018). The mechanism is profound: interoceptive awareness serves as "a window to emotional experience," allowing us to detect emotional cues early rather than after dysregulation has escalated.
The implication: Learning to listen to your body isn't "woo-woo"—it's evidence-based medicine.
2. Acceptance Outperforms Control
Multiple meta-analyses confirm that acceptance-based approaches consistently outperform control-based interventions. Research shows that increases in psychological flexibility correlate strongly with decreased symptoms (r = .60–.83) and increased quality of life (Hofer et al., 2024).
Even more striking: in chronic pain populations, disability relates more to experiential avoidance of pain than to actual pain intensity (McCracken, 1998). In other words, how we relate to discomfort matters more than the discomfort itself.
3. Self-Compassion Activates Your Soothing System
When comparing self-compassion (being kind to yourself) with self-criticism (the internal voice of control), research overwhelmingly favors compassion. Meta-analyses show medium to large effects (g = 0.67-0.79) for reducing depression, anxiety, and stress (Luo et al., 2023).
The mechanism involves autonomic regulation: self-compassion activates the parasympathetic "soothing system," while self-criticism hyperactivates threat systems (Gilbert, 2020). Attempting to control yourself through criticism literally keeps your nervous system in a defensive state.
4. Polyvagal Theory: Safety, Not Control, Enables Regulation
Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory provides the neurophysiological framework for understanding why this matters. Higher vagal tone—a measure of parasympathetic flexibility—predicts better self-regulation, emotional resilience, and physiological recovery (Porges, 2024).
The critical insight: when your nervous system detects danger, "the physiological pathways necessary for calm, relational engagement, and self-regulation become inaccessible." No amount of cognitive control can override a nervous system locked in defensive mode. The solution isn't control but safety—creating conditions that allow your nervous system to access its regulatory resources.
5. The Body Remembers: Why Bottom-Up Approaches Work
Research on trauma illuminates a fundamental truth: "it is the body—not the brain—where trauma is present, and it is the body which initiates trauma responses" (Brickel & Associates, 2019). When experiencing threat, the prefrontal cortex (thinking brain) goes offline, conserving energy for survival.
This is why purely cognitive approaches often fail for trauma and chronic stress. Studies consistently show that somatic (body-based) approaches that work from the bottom up outperform top-down cognitive interventions (Nickoson et al., 2020). You can't think your way out of a physiological state—but you can sense and support your way through it.
6. Homeostasis: The Original Body Wisdom
Walter Cannon's 1932 work "The Wisdom of the Body" established what physiologists have known for nearly a century: the body possesses inherent self-regulating mechanisms. Homeostasis isn't static—it's dynamic, adjusting flexibly within ranges that support health (Billman, 2020).
Research reveals that "learning is the mechanism that gives the body its wisdom" (Dworkin, 1993). Your body learns from experience, continuously refining its regulatory responses. The concept of allostasis extends this further, showing that the body can anticipate and prepare for challenges, demonstrating truly intelligent regulation.
Why Essential Oils Are Uniquely Suited to Support This Shift
Given what research shows about working with the body's wisdom rather than controlling it, essential oils emerge as uniquely valuable tools—not because they force specific outcomes, but because they support the body's own regulatory capacity.
Direct Limbic Access
Unlike other sensory information that relays through the thalamus, olfactory input projects directly to limbic structures including the amygdala and hippocampus. This means essential oils can influence emotional and autonomic states without requiring cognitive mediation—supporting the bottom-up processing that research shows is essential for regulation.
Whole-Body Communication
Recent research has identified functional olfactory receptors throughout the body—in cardiovascular, respiratory, digestive, immune, and reproductive tissues (Kang & Koo, 2012). These "ectopic" olfactory receptors mean that essential oil constituents don't just create scent experiences; they participate in your body's internal communication network, potentially enhancing interoceptive awareness and homeostatic regulation.
Supporting Vagal Tone
Research demonstrates that certain essential oils enhance vagal tone, the key marker of parasympathetic flexibility. Studies show lavender essential oil increases heart rate variability—a direct measure of vagal function (Haze et al., 2002). By supporting vagal tone, essential oils help create the physiological state of safety necessary for regulation.
Reducing Inflammatory "Noise"
Chronic inflammation creates confusing body signals that interfere with interoception. Constituents like beta-caryophyllene (found in copaiba, black pepper, and clove) act as selective CB2 receptor agonists, providing powerful anti-inflammatory effects without psychoactivity (Gertsch et al., 2008). By reducing inflammatory noise, these constituents help clarify the body's internal signaling.
Neurochemical Support for Flexibility
Specific constituents support the neurochemical conditions for psychological flexibility:
- Linalool and linalyl acetate (lavender, bergamot, clary sage) modulate the amygdala's threat response while maintaining alertness—the essence of flexibility
- Alpha-pinene (frankincense, rosemary, pine) enhances acetylcholine activity, supporting cognitive flexibility
- Rose constituents (citronellol, geraniol) may activate oxytocin pathways, supporting the self-compassion that underlies regulation
Honoring Biochemical Individuality
Perhaps most importantly, individual responses to aromatics vary based on genetics, experience, current state, and context. This variability isn't a limitation—it's essential. When you select aromatics based on your body's response rather than following rigid protocols, you're practicing exactly what research shows works: listening to and trusting your body's wisdom.
The Synergy Principle
Genuine essential oils contain hundreds of constituents in precise ratios that cannot be replicated synthetically. Research increasingly shows that this complexity matters—that whole oils often outperform isolated constituents (as seen with lavender's camphor content enhancing effects beyond isolated linalool).
This molecular complexity may mirror and support the complexity of homeostatic regulation, which involves intricate networks of feedback loops operating across multiple timescales. Single isolated constituents force specific outcomes like pharmaceutical interventions, while the synergistic complexity of whole oils supports flexible regulation.
From Knowledge to Practice: What This Means for You
Understanding this research changes how we approach essential oils:
Instead of: Using lavender "for sleep" (control-based thinking)
Try: Noticing when your body is drawn to lavender and what state that creates (listening to body wisdom)
Instead of: Following rigid protocols prescribing specific oils for specific symptoms
Try: Exploring oils and trusting your body's attraction or aversion as information
Instead of: Using oils to suppress or override uncomfortable states
Try: Using oils to support your capacity to be present with and regulate through various states
Instead of: Viewing changing preferences as inconsistency
Try: Recognizing that shifting preferences reflect your body's changing needs—this IS regulation
The Bigger Picture
The research synthesized here points to a fundamental truth: health emerges not from controlling the body but from supporting its inherent regulatory capacity. This has implications far beyond essential oils—it suggests we need a cultural shift in how we understand and relate to our bodies.
Rather than viewing discomfort as an enemy to be controlled, we might recognize it as information to be sensed. Rather than suppressing symptoms, we might support the underlying regulatory processes. Rather than forcing specific outcomes, we might create conditions for the body's wisdom to operate.
Essential oils, used in ways that honor individual response and support rather than override the body's signals, offer accessible tools for this paradigm shift. They provide neurochemical support for the physiological states—parasympathetic activation, reduced inflammation, enhanced plasticity, increased vagal tone—that enable collaboration with the body rather than control over it.
Moving Forward
The evidence is clear: your body isn't broken. It's brilliantly designed, continuously learning, and constantly working to maintain your well-being. When we shift from attempting to control it to learning to collaborate with it—sensing its signals, trusting its wisdom, supporting its capacity—genuine regulation becomes possible.
This is what the research shows. This is why essential oils matter—not as tools for control, but as allies in the profound practice of listening to, trusting, and supporting your body's inherent wisdom.
Key References
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Dworkin, B. R. (1993). Learning and physiological regulation. University of Chicago Press.
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Nickoson, D. M., Rimel, R. J., & Madsen, C. L. (2020). The use of bottom-up, sensory-based approaches for self-regulation in adolescents with complex trauma. Journal of Creativity in Mental Health.
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Price, C. J., et al. (2018). Interoceptive awareness skills for emotion regulation: Theory and approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-oriented Therapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 9, 798.
This article synthesizes peer-reviewed research to explore how essential oils support the body's inherent regulatory wisdom. For complete citations and detailed mechanisms, please refer to the full research article.